This is the 3rd week I have been talking about re programming our minds to change what it is that we believe in order for our beliefs to work for us and not against us. It may help you to go back over the prior 2 weeks messages and re cap on them prior to moving forward with this week’s message. It is a lot to take in and grasp but if you will stay with this material and it’s message, you can change your belief’s and make them work for you rather then against you.
Now that you have made out a list of those things that you believe to be true about yourself, what you need to understand is that the ONLY thing in this world that makes them true for you, it is simply because you believe it. That’s right, it’s only your acceptance of it, not mine, not your spouse’s, not your bosses or your family. It’s just you and you alone. This is great news for you because that means you are only battling one thing and one thing alone. Not other people, no outside situations or things, you are only battling your mind. This alone should give you an understanding that the work needed to change your beliefs is not as big of a task as you may have originally thought it was.
The next step that needs to happen in this process is for you to understand that of those items on your list, they are only for you to change, no one else. Remember, this is all internal, not external. You believe those things on that list to be true because you choose to do so. Maybe not consciously… but you did choose to do so. Yes, I know that there were outside influences that added to this list, I get that and agree with you. What I am asking you to do is to accept responsibility for you and your beliefs. From here on…hold yourself accountable and be responsible. This is a huge part of re programming your beliefs because if you continue to blame someone else for why you are like you are, then why would you ever really need to change? It would not be your fault so there would be no need. This is your life, not your Mom’s, not your Dad’s, not your spouses or your ex spouses. Grab your life and take ownership of it, if you have blamed others, then stop. Understand that they have there own problems to deal with, why on earth would giving them more things to deal with help you or help them?
The next step in making your beliefs work for you rather then against you is to allow yourself to change. Give yourself permission to think differently, do differently and learn differently. Yes, it will feel awkward at first as most any kind of change does, but know inside that why you are changing is important, it is needed and that it is ok to do so.
Remember, this is all about you getting some different results in your life and to do so, you are going to have to think differently, view things differently, believe differently which will all cause you to act differently. All because, it is what you believe to be true right now today, that has got you what you have right now. Truly, aside from the mechanics and tasks needed to accomplish anything in life, it is our belief’s that dictate and direct most everything we do. Giving our self permission to believe in a different way, can also give us self empowerment and when we are going to take a stand and first challenge and then change our beliefs, little things like self empowerment will help you along the way.
Next week we will go over part IV of making your beliefs work for you rather then against you and cover the list you made of things you want to change about what you believe.
Until then, have a great Friday everyone and be blessed.
Friday, January 28, 2011
Friday, January 21, 2011
Part 1 of 7: Our Beliefs
Last week I gave you some insight into how what we believe, controls and mostly dictates our life. I said that we are a Prisoner to our Beliefs . If you did not read last week’s message on this, I want to encourage you to go back and read it first before reading this one. In doing so, you will gain a deeper understanding of what we are going to cover this week: Realizing those deep- rooted personal beliefs that hold us back.
Ok, first things first here. Do you truly want to change some things about your life? Do you really want a different outcome than what you have been getting? If you are serious about making some changes, then I have some good news for you: Yes, you can change your life and it will start by changing what you believe. No, I am not going to try to make you believe you can defy gravity or with enough positive thinking you can make it stop raining outside. What I am talking about is you and your beliefs. It has nothing to do with the external but everything to do with the internal.
You and I have developed our beliefs usually by our past experiences; how we were raised and what our surroundings taught us. True, it does not matter if it is wrong or right, it just is what it is. It’s a program that runs in our brains and every time we want to know if something is true or not, good or bad, right or wrong, our minds turn to that old file (what we experienced or were taught or what we saw in the past). It then gives us a belief which results in an answer for what we are seeking. This is the basis of every belief you and I have ever had. It does not matter what the subject is, it just matters we understand every one of us operates from this place.
If you want a different outcome from what you have been experiencing in your life, you will need to change what it is you believe. To do this is not rocket science, nor is it complex. It will, however require that you truly want a different outcome, and make a conscious effort every day to do so. If you can be true to yourself with these two requirements, then yes, you can create a different outcome and get what you truly want out of life. You see, our minds are nothing more than a computer (A darn good one I might add) and as with any computer, it can be reprogrammed. I know, because I have done it and have met many other people who have also done it. Like I said, this is not rocket science, but the process of reprogramming your own computer will not be easy. So if you are going to do this, your desire will have to be strong enough to carry you through the difficult times during the process. Trust me on this, it will be well worth it! I am a living testimony of reprogramming what we believe.
For now, you will need to make a list of the things you want to change about yourself. Yes, write it down. No, a mental list is not good enough, you need to see and read those things which you put on your list. There is power in doing this, don’t take it lightly. Your list might only be a few things or it might be a dozen things. There is no right or wrong here, it’s your list. An example of some beliefs you might put on your list could be: I have always weighed too much so I always will; I don’t deserve to be happy; I know I will never be rich; I have always been this way and always will be; I guess I deserve to be alone.
Go ahead and make your list. What do you believe to be true about yourself but wish you could change? Next week we will dive into part 2 of this re-programming process.
Have a great Friday everyone, be blessed.
Ok, first things first here. Do you truly want to change some things about your life? Do you really want a different outcome than what you have been getting? If you are serious about making some changes, then I have some good news for you: Yes, you can change your life and it will start by changing what you believe. No, I am not going to try to make you believe you can defy gravity or with enough positive thinking you can make it stop raining outside. What I am talking about is you and your beliefs. It has nothing to do with the external but everything to do with the internal.
You and I have developed our beliefs usually by our past experiences; how we were raised and what our surroundings taught us. True, it does not matter if it is wrong or right, it just is what it is. It’s a program that runs in our brains and every time we want to know if something is true or not, good or bad, right or wrong, our minds turn to that old file (what we experienced or were taught or what we saw in the past). It then gives us a belief which results in an answer for what we are seeking. This is the basis of every belief you and I have ever had. It does not matter what the subject is, it just matters we understand every one of us operates from this place.
If you want a different outcome from what you have been experiencing in your life, you will need to change what it is you believe. To do this is not rocket science, nor is it complex. It will, however require that you truly want a different outcome, and make a conscious effort every day to do so. If you can be true to yourself with these two requirements, then yes, you can create a different outcome and get what you truly want out of life. You see, our minds are nothing more than a computer (A darn good one I might add) and as with any computer, it can be reprogrammed. I know, because I have done it and have met many other people who have also done it. Like I said, this is not rocket science, but the process of reprogramming your own computer will not be easy. So if you are going to do this, your desire will have to be strong enough to carry you through the difficult times during the process. Trust me on this, it will be well worth it! I am a living testimony of reprogramming what we believe.
For now, you will need to make a list of the things you want to change about yourself. Yes, write it down. No, a mental list is not good enough, you need to see and read those things which you put on your list. There is power in doing this, don’t take it lightly. Your list might only be a few things or it might be a dozen things. There is no right or wrong here, it’s your list. An example of some beliefs you might put on your list could be: I have always weighed too much so I always will; I don’t deserve to be happy; I know I will never be rich; I have always been this way and always will be; I guess I deserve to be alone.
Go ahead and make your list. What do you believe to be true about yourself but wish you could change? Next week we will dive into part 2 of this re-programming process.
Have a great Friday everyone, be blessed.
Friday, January 14, 2011
Are our beliefs working for us or against us
In early December, I was outside mowing my backyard. Not very common for this time of year, I know, but it needed to be done so I took the time to do it. As I was mowing, I could hear my Dad’s voice inside my head telling me: “it’s too wet outside, you don’t mow grass when it’s wet - it has to be dry.” Interestingly enough, it has probably been over 25 years since my Dad told me that. Yet, even after all this time, I can still hear that statement in my head and Dad was serious about it. Mowing the lawn when it is wet is not something we do. I never really knew why, I just knew that if I ever did it and my Dad found out, I would have been in big trouble.
My Dad had a strong belief that mowing the grass when it was wet was wrong. Yet on every golf course across this country, rain or shine, the grass on the greens and the fairways are mowed constantly to keep them in ideal condition. Lawn maintenance companies in every town and city keep their customers grass cut and trimmed to an attractive length, no matter if it rains or not. This alone tells us that there really is no right or wrong about this subject, there is only a belief about the way we think it should be. Ironically enough, this is mostly the way you and I live our life. We live, do and operate around what it is we believe to be true. It does not matter what the subject is. We are all a prisoner to our own personal beliefs because what we believe to be true is the very thing that either holds us back, or pushes us forward to what we want in our life.
Even having a low self esteem stems from the lack of belief in yourself that you are worthy, valuable and important. Do you seek to make twice the amount of money this year as you did last year? Get real with you for a minute and ask yourself if you truly believe that you are worth making that much money. Then, ask yourself: do you believe you can make that much money. It’s not a matter of how you will make the money. It’s a matter of believing you can.
Looking to land the ideal job? Look in the mirror and ask yourself: Am I really worth a job like this. If you can’t say yes with a fair amount of confidence and self assurance, then there is a good chance inside of you somewhere that you really don’t believe you are worth it and if you don’t believe it, it will never come to be. Even the Bible talks to us about our beliefs repeatedly. Jesus performed miracles and it wasn’t because he was some sort of magic man, it was because he believed in himself and who he was. You and I will always be a prisoner to what we believe, good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, it does not matter.
Some of us have such deep rooted beliefs that they do us far more harm then good and upon changing them, we would be pleasantly surprised at just how different life would look for us. I like to refer to this as making our beliefs work for us, not against us.
Doing this will guarantee us a different life but those old beliefs will not leave you willingly, they will put up a fight. If you truly want to change them, the first step is becoming aware that they could be holding you back. Even though I changed my belief about mowing the grass when it is wet, that old belief still tries to pop up and remind me that I shouldn’t mow the grass when it is wet. The key here is to choose to override it and make a new belief – one that works for you rather than against you.
Our beliefs control us in what we do, say, act and how we live our life. I am going to take the next 7 weeks and cover a series about how to become aware of unhealthy beliefs and how you can re program them. Stay tuned for next week when we start part 1 of beliefs.
Have a great Friday everyone, be blessed.
My Dad had a strong belief that mowing the grass when it was wet was wrong. Yet on every golf course across this country, rain or shine, the grass on the greens and the fairways are mowed constantly to keep them in ideal condition. Lawn maintenance companies in every town and city keep their customers grass cut and trimmed to an attractive length, no matter if it rains or not. This alone tells us that there really is no right or wrong about this subject, there is only a belief about the way we think it should be. Ironically enough, this is mostly the way you and I live our life. We live, do and operate around what it is we believe to be true. It does not matter what the subject is. We are all a prisoner to our own personal beliefs because what we believe to be true is the very thing that either holds us back, or pushes us forward to what we want in our life.
Even having a low self esteem stems from the lack of belief in yourself that you are worthy, valuable and important. Do you seek to make twice the amount of money this year as you did last year? Get real with you for a minute and ask yourself if you truly believe that you are worth making that much money. Then, ask yourself: do you believe you can make that much money. It’s not a matter of how you will make the money. It’s a matter of believing you can.
Looking to land the ideal job? Look in the mirror and ask yourself: Am I really worth a job like this. If you can’t say yes with a fair amount of confidence and self assurance, then there is a good chance inside of you somewhere that you really don’t believe you are worth it and if you don’t believe it, it will never come to be. Even the Bible talks to us about our beliefs repeatedly. Jesus performed miracles and it wasn’t because he was some sort of magic man, it was because he believed in himself and who he was. You and I will always be a prisoner to what we believe, good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, it does not matter.
Some of us have such deep rooted beliefs that they do us far more harm then good and upon changing them, we would be pleasantly surprised at just how different life would look for us. I like to refer to this as making our beliefs work for us, not against us.
Doing this will guarantee us a different life but those old beliefs will not leave you willingly, they will put up a fight. If you truly want to change them, the first step is becoming aware that they could be holding you back. Even though I changed my belief about mowing the grass when it is wet, that old belief still tries to pop up and remind me that I shouldn’t mow the grass when it is wet. The key here is to choose to override it and make a new belief – one that works for you rather than against you.
Our beliefs control us in what we do, say, act and how we live our life. I am going to take the next 7 weeks and cover a series about how to become aware of unhealthy beliefs and how you can re program them. Stay tuned for next week when we start part 1 of beliefs.
Have a great Friday everyone, be blessed.
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