Attracting Healthy Love Part 2

Last week we talked about attracting certain people in of our lives.  Was it a hard concept to grasp?  If so, it’s ok.  You’re not alone.

When an idea is presented to us that says what we’re doing is giving us results we do not want, our initial response will be resistance or even denial.  After all, why would anyone in their right mind go after something they really don’t want?  Answer?  They wouldn’t…unless they weren’t aware they were doing it.

This is part two in a series entitled: Attracting Healthy Love.

When I was in my 20’s, I dated a handful of different girls.  All of them caring, giving, beautiful women but they also had one common denominator.  A factor in which I could not see, yet was real and working in my attraction to them and them to me.

One day it came to me like a ton of bricks: Why in the world am I repeatedly attracted to these types of women?  You see, the common denominator for me was every one of these gals needed to be emotionally rescued.  Subconsciously I was taking it upon myself to be their rescuer.  Therefore I was attracting this type of woman into my life.

Admittedly, that is a very unhealthy belief to live with.  It is never my or your job to emotionally rescue anybody.  But being young and having some messed up unhealthy ideas about who I was and what I was wanting were guiding me.  Things I had no clue were attracting these types of women into my life.

Most often it is past events of life that tend to create who we are when it comes to attracting a mate.  Remember:  You can’t fix something about yourself if you don’t know it is broken.  So if you’re not attracting the ideal mate into your life, there is a reason. 

Each one of us has the ability to change who we attract into our life. One of the greatest gifts of being human is having choices.  Once we become aware of a trait within us that does not serve us well, we can chose to change it.

So what is the first step in making this change?  It is, by far, the most important step you will ever take and it is a have to if you are going to attract the ideal mate into your life.  What I am referring too is personal desire. 

You have to want something better.  You need to want it badly enough that you’re willing to leave behind the concepts you thought were right but has not yielded the results you want.

Ask yourself this.  Am I sick and tired of attracting the wrong kind of person into my life?  Am I ready to look within myself and adjust (fix) what is holding me back from having my ideal spouse?

If your answer is a solid yes then congratulations.  You are on your way to attracting the kind of mate your heart truly wants.

Next week we will uncover some key components you need to be aware of in the changing process.

Have a great Friday everyone, be blessed.