Probably my deepest passion of life lies within having and
obtaining healthy relationships. Simply
because I believe that relationships can catapult us forward or sink us
lower. Help us grow, or hold us
back. They can lift us up or keep us
down and they can bring a tremendous amount of joy and happiness or, bring us a
ton of pain, sorrow and misery. Yes,
relationships are an essential key to life.
No matter where you go or what you do, you are going to deal with
relationships all your life. Family,
friends, neighbors, marriages…even if you want to be alone and away form
others, you are still going to have to deal with your self. Yes, we even have relationships with our
selves.
Relationships though are not always easy and often times can
be very complex. Maybe that is why they
can be so rewarding is because they are so difficult. Seems like most everything in life that is a
struggle also comes with a reward. But
none the less, every relationship is unique in its own way. It will have strengths and weaknesses, plus’s
and minus’s. There depth and strength
will usually be tested in some way or another and what is even more peculiar to
me is that every relationship we will ever have is founded or based on something
mutually beneficial.
Think about it for a moment.
Every relationship you have ever had the ones you have right now and the
ones you are seeking to have will have a common denominator, a common
interest(s) that both people agree upon.
It does not matter what that interest is, it only matters that it is
there. Then, that interest becomes the very foundation of which that
relationship is built upon. Sometimes,
the foundation is about companionship, other’s are about common activities or
hobbies. Some are of money or task
driven, do this for me and I will pay you this much money. Yes, we even have a relationship with our employer.
Love them or hate them, it is true.
But 2 key elements here are that they
are always mutually beneficial and that they have a foundation. Without these two things, any relationship
you have will be strained and or will cease to exist.
Think back to a friend you use to spend a lot of time
with. Someone that brought a lot of joy
to you, someone that made you laugh and made you fell better about yourself
when you were around them. Do you know
why you are not around them anymore?
Have you ever thought about what happened to that relationship you use
to have with them? What happened to
it? Chances are that one or both of those
core things needed I just mentioned were removed or replaced with something
else, somewhere along the way. I have
had some very memorable times with friends in the past and yet today, we do not
even see each other and hardly ever talk.
Not because either one of us are mad at the other, simply because one of
those 2 key elements were removed and the relationship died.
Think about the next relationship you make. What will it be founded on? What will be the mutually rewarding factor
that becomes the glue that holds it all together? Up until this point, were you even aware that
there was glue to every relationship? Do
you understand that at any time, without notice, the other party involved can
remove that glue that holds your relationship together? Yes, that is right, a change can come at any
moment, with or without your consent and then where will that leave you? Be aware that this is real. Things change, people change and whether or
not you like it, your relationships will change.
If you want solid, strong, healthy relationships in your
life then be aware that the foundation upon which you build them must be just
that: solid, strong and healthy because attitudes, likes and dislikes will
probably come and go. Maybe not tomorrow
or even next year, but trust me, things will change and if the relationships is
not built upon a permanent foundation, chances are, it will falter.
Have a great weekend everyone and be blessed.
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